Livingstone, who started ATruckers after her husband became a truck driver, notes the importance of tactful communication.“You don’t bring up big issues with [your spouse] while they’re on the road, but wait until they come home -- just like you wouldn’t phone someone at the office,” she says. “Drivers must concentrate on their driving abilities, not the argument they just had,” she wrote on her Web site.
Here are some tips on how you, the one on the road, can keep the relationship strong while you’re away, so you can enjoy your time together when you are at home.
Unique Concerns for Truckers and Spouses “Trucking requires one to be gone long hours, days, weeks and sometimes months,” says Tom Hawks, a veteran trucker.
“A good relationship is hard to keep going when two folks are apart for that length of time.” For Kathy Harders, founder of LOADS (Loved Ones and Drivers Support), a prominent Web site dedicated to supporting trucker spouses, this was especially true.
“The confusion of the life -- not knowing when your spouse would return home, having to deal with all the home-front ups and downs -- I became frustrated.” Hawks warns of the demands a trucking lifestyle can have on a personal relationship. “Many aren’t sure if they can take the daily grind day-in and day-out for months and years.” Communicate Effectively Harders recommends setting up a scheduled time and day for the drivers to call home within a range of three to five hours, to ensure steady communication.
For Livingstone and others, nurturing romance with someone who’s often out on the road for weeks at a time can be challenging.