Do not wait for a therapy appointment to start talking.You should start the conversation now and then discuss the topic (and others) in therapy.
Dear Amy: My wife and I have been married for 20 years. Recently she told me she is not happy with our marriage.
She said she still cares deeply for me but that she is not attracted to me anymore.
Should I be worried about an emotional affair, or could this just be idle chitchat?
Should I ask her about him or should I wait for us to go into therapy to bring up this subject?
One of the most important tools couples’ counseling can give you is a new way of communicating.